Having played online games since the beginning of online games I have run across many people who have struggled or had a difficult time with different aspects of online gaming. Some could not figure out how to play effectively and some could not figure out how to get along with the community. Ultimately, these issues led to them not enjoying the game and quitting altogether. However there are very simple, easy to follow steps that almost ensure your success in any online multiplayer game.
First, as a rule of thumb you want to ask for help when you need it. While asking for help may let people know that you are not sure what you are doing, it will save you a lot of frustration. Beside, people expect that new people will begin playing the game and need some help, and many people are open to helping you out and showing you the routes.
Once you understand what you are doing fairly well, begin to play with or challenge other people depending on what type of game you are playing. More and more games have added friend lists and chat options and if the game you are playing has it then by all means make use of it. This can help if you need someone to play later and also help when you have a question with something. This way you do not always have to ask the question in public but can instead ask one of your friends who may know the answer.
Another important thing is online etiquette. While there is nothing wrong with a little competition, rudeness and derogatory speech are usually not well accepted. If the game has game managers, speaking in such a manager is usually enough to get your account suspended or banned altogether. Even if the game does not have game managers, negativity can be a quick way to get many people to steer clear of you and have a bad outlook on you.
The last thing that can make your online experience a positive one is helping other players. Once you have a good grasp on what you are doing you are sure to at some point run across someone who needs help with some aspect of the game. Helping this player can not only increase your friend list by one person but may end up paying off later. There have been numerous instances where I have helped a player in need only to have them come back later and pay me back in some way. Pay it forward; it will pay off in leaps and bounds. Now go out, have fun, and have a great experience with whichever online multiplayer game you choose.