Every couple has friends. However, some friendships transcend the normal family barbecues on a summer afternoon or the typical cocktail hour. Many of us find an attraction to other couples that can best be characterized as flirty and maybe even a bit sexual in nature. While there is no doubt that most have secretly wondered what it would be like to establish a more intimate relationship with the opposite sex member of another couple, few ever act on this. The norms of most social groups generally prohibit this sort of behavior.
The reason for this reticence generally relates to the fact that a close friendship may be spoiled if one particularly frisky member of a group makes their desires known. However, in the right circumstances, it may be appropriate for couples to experiment with a more daring flavor of fun. While the indicators that this may be a possibility can be elusive, common signs include a turn in the conversation to sexual topics, a bit of mild flirtation between couples and “innocent” touches received from a non-partner. Even if these indicators exist, there is still a risk that moving a dinner party toward a sexier tempo will put off some members of the friendship group.
In the event you and your partner have discussed the possibility of making your next party a bit more racy, there are a variety of ways to broach the idea with friends. The first is to increase the level of sexy conversation in order to evaluate the other couple’s receptiveness. Another method involves telling a story about a couple “you heard about” who hosts wild parties and may even be in swingers. A real favorite is to ask the group if they would like to play a naughty game after everyone has had a few drinks. A particularly wise friend once said, “Every couple is only three martinis away from being swingers.” A fun way to set the mood is to suggest either a drinking or truth or dare party game that multiple couples can play together. There will always be a few daring members of the group who are interested in testing the boundaries of everyone’s comfort. Given the reaction to this over the course of the evening, it may be acceptable to turn up the heat by introducing a multi couple sex game.
Multiple couple sex games require a bit of pre-planning in order to pull off properly. One of the most important elements is sexy, upbeat music. Barry White is definitely not a good idea. Instead, consider a club mix that will remind players about that night of debauchery they fondly recall from years ago. Also, it is essential to set up a comfortable seating area that facilitates easy interaction and access to the game board itself. Remember to dim the lights as everyone looks better in soft light and it creates a sexy environment. Finally, based on the group’s potential for really outrageous fun, having condoms or sex toys hidden nearby may make sense. Now on to the really fun part – which multi-couple sex game to suggest?
It is quite common for the instigating couple to pull out a sex game designed for individual couples and then alter the rules to make the game work for a group. Unfortunately, this is often difficult and these games don’t spend much time setting the mood or easing participants into the experience. As such, suggesting a game where everyone is familiar with the rules makes sense. Consider Truth or Dare, Strip Poker, or Spin the Bottle as potential initiators. Also, these games tend to keep things fairly light and as a result are the proper approach for a first “play” attempt. Assuming that the multiple couples present are very comfortable with each other, you may elect to suggest a game for swingers.
Multi couple sex games and swinger games are essentially the same thing. The most important element in the selection of a game in this category is to consider the potential for real swapping amongst the couples present. While there are not many games for swingers on the market today, some assume that everyone playing is fully into “The Lifestyle” and have no boundaries or inhibitions. This is fine if you are playing the game with other couples with whom you have played with in the past. However, for those initially exploring the possibility, be sure that the game you choose has enough flexibility to cater to all preferences and levels of engagement. A great game will ensure that participants easily control the tempo of play without ever making them feel like “party poopers” if a challenge or question is outside their comfort level. Additionally, it is essential that a multiple couple sex game allow the group to regulate the intensity of play based on the desires of the most conservative individual. To that end, a great house rule is to state that the women are in charge of deciding how much to do and what boundaries are most appropriate for the session.
Make your next party or get together both memorable and fun by suggesting a variety of multiple couple sex games. While there is some risk involved, you will have a good idea as to whether this is right for you and your friends. Also, be sure to select the most appropriate game for the situation and preferences of the group.